Why Do The Holidays Make Me Depressed And Anxious?

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I want to feel joy but my holiday depression and anxiety get in the way!

The holiday season is supposed to be a fun time of year full of parties, family gatherings and celebrations. But instead it can be a time when you are sad, lonely, depressed and anxious.

But why am I depressed and anxious?

This time of year, can be a painful reminder of loved ones we’ve lost or are separated from. And, if we lack close relationships it can be difficult when we see others gathering with friends and families. When we compare our holiday experience with a picture-perfect view presented on social media we can end up feeling very disappointed.

When we do gather with family, complex dynamics between family members can be a source of tension and stress—even anticipating them can wretch up our anxiety level. And then all the added expenses, pressures and activity of buying gifts, traveling and hosting can lead to increased stress and anxiety.

As a result, it can be hard to find joy in the midst of it all.

These are some things you can do to help yourself:

• Do make your holiday expectations realistic.
• Pace yourself. Don’t take on more responsibilities than you can handle.
• Be realistic about what you can and can’t do. It’s ok to say no!
• Make a list and prioritize the important activities.
• Don’t compare today with the past or with what others are doing.
• Be grateful for what you have today.
• Limit your drinking. Excessive drinking will only increase feelings of depression.
• Try a new way to celebrate the holidays.
• Keep track of your holiday spending. Make a budget and stick to it.
• Let others step up and help take on holiday responsibilities.
• Look for glimmers of joy like a kind word from a stranger, a special moment with a friend.
• Get good sleep, eat healthy and get some exercise—even a simple walk can help.
• Spend time with supportive and caring people.
• Reach out to an old friend or relative and say hello.
• Consider volunteering to help those in need.
• Plan ahead and find ways to help yourself cope with challenging family dynamics.
• Make time for you! Do something special just for yourself! Give yourself the gift of self-care!

If the holiday season gets you too down, depressed and anxious, it’s ok to ask for some help! And you don’t have to face all this alone.

Do contact me to get started with depression therapy and/or anxiety therapy today!

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