Everything is…As it should be…

Acceptance is a key

I learned a wonderfully helpful meditation tool many years ago. As you sit with focus on your breath when you inhale say to yourself: “Everything is”; and when you exhale say to yourself: “As it should be”. Say this over and over and over and over again too with each breath you take.

I remember vividly at the training session that soon into my experience I had tears streaming down my face. Don’t recall what I had been clinging to that day but I clearly recall letting go.

They call it Radical Acceptance

To accept that everything is as it should be, means that we radically accept life as it is. We don’t have to like it just accept it is what it is. But it takes practice and lots of it to radically accept life as it is.

We fight against what is

We all want what we want and often when we want it too. However, this causes us so much pain and misery because life happens not to be exactly what we want or need or hope or demand of it.

A prime ‘everything is as it should be’ example

The reality that “everything is as it should be” came home to me in a real life example on my way home from work one day.

I was driving through the heart of the small town I live in behind a person who I thought had too much space ahead of them. We hit a read light at the last stop light because that driver was so slow. And after the light changed we managed to get caught for a train! Of all things too! Not just a red light but a train! I was not a happy camper. Grumble…grumble….

Waiting for the train to pass I noticed a woman about three cars behind me got out of her car and ran up the line of cars. It was a beautiful warm day and I had my window open. She came right up to my widow and kindly informed me that I had lost a hub cap about two blocks behind. I thanked her and she ran back to her vehicle before the train finished going by.

Everything is…

I retrieved my hub cap thanks to her and that pokey driver ahead of me and that train that I grumble at each time I catch it on my way home. Had none of that happened I would have arrived home and maybe noticed the missing hub cap. I would have not known when or where I’d lost it. I might not have even noticed it was missing. I may have never found it.

I am very grateful for those drivers both a head and behind me and for that train and those events that happened just like they did. It was all meant to be.

Everything is as it should be has far reaching affects

I’ve grumbled at that train when it makes me a little later getting home after a long day and I am tired and hungry. But now I’ve realized an appreciation for the company who uses it for transport. They’ve provided jobs for thousands of people over the years, paid taxes that support the community and have donated in many ways to better the community.

Looking beyond this community there are probably hundreds of thousands of people who are touched in some form by that train and its cargo.

Because of this, my attitude about that train has changed. My patience with other drivers has improved. I notice I’ve had more pleasant trips driving home from work this week.

Everything really is just as it should be which is not always the way I demand of life to be. When I open and see that more clearly I am a much happier camper indeed!

Will you pause and reflect on your day to see how everything is as it should be?

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