Four Years Ago…

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Tender loss anniversaries…

It is a tender time of year for me. I notice my thoughts are full of the events surrounding my dad’s death and funeral and of memories of him at various times during my life. I miss him of course. And my eyes more easily well up with tears.

I don’t feel the depth of my grief of losing him as often as I did in the past. Dunkin’s death this summer gave me an opportunity to think of and feel my grief about losing my dad as well…new loss is a reminder of old losses. But the sadness in my heart it seems has lightened some.

Time does heal the wounds of grief.

This anniversary time is an opportunity to release more of that deeper pain that rests inside that wounded heart of mine. I am once again reminded of how exhausting grieving is and just how breath stopping the throbs of pain can be. It’s all part of the process it just is.

We certainly don’t forget those we’ve lost. With time, we do figure out how to live a life without them in it. Initially it doesn’t seem possible this could ever happen and we certainly don’t want for it to happen either. But we do somehow go on as hard as that is to reconcile initially.

I see our grief as a way we honor those and the relationships we’ve lost.

There are more memories and tears to come this week. And, I am allowing myself the space I need to let them come too. This fourth anniversary brings these gifts: the opportunity to release more of my grief and the recognition my heart has been healing.

What do you do to honor your loved one and heal your grieving heart when you face a loss anniversary?

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