Grief Is Hard Work

A 10-year anniversary…how can that be?

Grief is work and definitely grief is hard work too! It plugs along at its own pace. We can’t rush it, force it, avoid it…oh, we can try but it bites us in the rear if we don’t step up and do the hard work to bravely walk through it. Doing so is exhausting work.

It’s is so hard to believe it has been a whole 10 years since my dad died…seems like it was just yesterday. I miss you Dad!

Getting ‘over it’ is a myth.

Grieving is about dealing with our loss and dealing with our loss and dealing with our loss. It goes on and on, it just does. Even for those of us who are doing ‘well’ and ‘moving forward’ it still goes on.

Grief is at its best when we assimilate our loss and it becomes a part of who we now are.

I am a person who knows what its like to have lost a parent. Ten years ago, that pain was so so so very raw and so very intense every time I went any where near its edge I wondered if I’d ever be able to walk through it.

The hard work of grief is to allow for the pain and experience it as it is.

Grief expert David Kessler tells us the goal of grieving it so someday remember with ‘more love than pain’. That does not mean no pain or love instead of pain but ‘more love than pain.’

It still hurts and I miss my dad especially on special days including the anniversary of his death. It always will. How could it not? But that wound is not as raw as it was 10 long years ago. There has been some healing as I’ve slowly walked my way through it allowing my grief to travel with me at its own pace.

What has been your experience with the hard work of grief?
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