The Key to Handling Impermanence

Accepting that things change

I so much am a creature of habit who likes things to stay the same. That is unless of course the change is something that I desire, then I go willingly right along with it and pretty easily accept change. But then I don’t want that change to change.

And heaven forbid that a change is unwanted say because it’s hard to deal with…I certainly don’t want THAT kind of change to happen!

The very idea that change is life itself is sometimes hard for me to grasp.

And yet our growth or change starts in our mother’s wombs. We are constantly developing, evolving, changing.

I do struggle with the reality of impermanence. I like to cling to what is particularly when it suits me and often letting go is a struggle.

Let’s face it, on a very basic level, we all want pleasant experiences to linger, to hang around; we don’t really want unpleas­ant things to happen now do we!

So we resist, we fight it and in doing this we create a great deal of suffering for ourselves. My reaction to change makes all the difference. When we accept change, peace follows.

Changing My Thinking On Impermanence, On Change

When I pause and recognize my thinking and my struggle–the resistance, the tantrums, the dug in tootsies, it helps me to smile with myself and relax a bit, let go and accept change. Till the next time that is when change hits me between the eyes and I’m knocked off balance once again.

Awareness of my thoughts is a key.

Awareness means I’m a step removed from the thought itself and notice or observe it rather than being consumed or one with it.

It’s not something that comes naturally for me to do either. It’s far more enticing to be all caught up in my thinking than to step back and notice it with some curiosity. My day however tends to go better when I practice noticing my thoughts rather than live in them. I react with more balance to the world around me.

I’m fairly certain the people I encounter appreciate it when I am more in balance with life too!

What happens for you when you take notice of what your thoughts are doing?

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