Our Lives Are Teaching Us!

That saying is really so very true. My life is constantly teaching me things. Most importantly I keep learning about me.

This week brought some challenges my way that allowed me to see a pattern of reaction I have that I hadn’t seen before. Seeing that has helped me grow and know more about me.

I remember the very first time I noticed a reaction pattern I had. It was back in my mid 20’s when I was learning how to be a separate person from my parents and wanted to change how I reacted to my mom.

I vividly recall seeing an old very familiar way I had been reacting towards her mid doing. And, I smiled at myself for catching me. Until that moment I had kept my focus on what she was doing.

There was such power in that moment because I saw what I was doing and as a result was able to intentionally change my reaction.

My mom however caught that smile and thought I was being smart with her! I explained that I had just realized what I was doing in that interaction we were having.

It’s easy for us to be caught up in what someone else is doing that rubs us the wrong way. That focus however keeps us from learning about ourselves and growing and, keeps us in misery and suffering.

I only have control over me.

Learning how to see, watch, be witness to our own thoughts, reactions, behaviors is where wisdom and growth lie. This is how we make change happen and peace dwells within our soul. And, we get to have a smile on our face too!

Do you have a challenging relationship in your life? If so, what is your habitual reaction/thoughts/behavior in your interactions with that person?