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My dearest little McAllister is a clever little manipulator. Just this morning yet once again she managed to spit out part of her pill while devouring the pill pocket treat it was in. This action of course gets her more pill pocket treats. She does this often too. She is a little stinker that one.
And then, she sits at her can of food looking at me and so I add water and stir it up and she eats some and then she sits and looks at me and more water and stirring happens and then she eats and sits and stares at me. Eventually I break down and give her a tooth brush treat and she eats more of her food! I know she knows exactly what she is doing too! We all know who is in control and it certainly isn’t me! Such skill she has!
They instinctively understand how people work and have a lack of empathy for others. This combination of psychological insight and emotional detachment is poisonous and dangerous to be around if you happen to be picked as their target.
In the workplace they do tend to pick on people who are nervous, shy or conscientious. A nervous person’s emotional buttons get pushed more easily. A shy person likely will not tell anyone about being bullied. A conscientious person will tend to wonder if they are somehow at fault and hope they can perhaps stop the bully by doing better or working harder.
Bullies try to prevent their victim from getting their normal human needs met. And bullies get their own needs met at the expense of their victims.
Bullying is any intentional and repetitious aggressive behavior designed to undermine, embarrass, or otherwise distress the target of such behavior.
Do know that it is very common for adults not just kids, yes adults to do this to other adults. And they even do it in the workplace too! Do know too that if this has or is happening to you that it has tremendous impacts on your over all well being.
Being bullied in the work place can undermine your self confidence, self esteem and can even produce symptoms of depression.
Humans so seek to dominate each other and sometimes this domination can be very subtle and almost undetectable. This form of aggression we call manipulation. And it is deliberately intended to cause pain.
If you have been or are being bullied it is important that you reach out for support and get help. There are many on line resources that can assist you in learning more about bullying and what to do to help yourself and take action. Included below is a website to help you get started.
Meanwhile my precious little McAllister is all curled up napping away peacefully so very unsuspectingly too. Skilled operator….damn good thing you are cute!
Have you been bullied in your life? What did this experience cost you? What did or will you do to get help?
Do Contact Me if the bulling you’ve experienced is creating trauma for you. Together in PTSD Treatment we can explore life coping tools for you to incorporate into your life’s journey!
